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The Registry

This past weekend, DD and I registered for the wedding. Sure, we’re still over 8 months out, but I enjoy being ahead of the game. Also? I’ve kind of been looking forward to registering longer than I’ve been looking forward to the wedding itself.

I swear I’m not totally gift-grabby, though what bride doesn’t stalk her registry? Honestly, I’m just so excited to choose things for *us* and begin to coordinate the stuff that will make up our to-be-determined living space so that it feels like home.

As excited as I’ve been about registering, I’ve been just as terrified of it. I was terrified of making decisions on which sets of pots to get and which color towels to get and blah blah blah. After all, part of the point of this is to find and receive things that will last us well into our married life. And I won’t lie, I was also afraid of trying to find common ground with DD since I know our tastes are different.

After a solid two hours in Bed, Bath and Beyond, we exited in one piece with our relationship still intact and with a lengthy list of items. No fights were had, not even a small skirmish.

Here are a few keys to our success:

  • Research. I spent many hours perusing BBB’s website to get an idea of china patterns I liked, bedspreads I liked, and kitchen appliances I wanted. When we got there, I was able to quickly narrow down a few choices that gave us a jumping off point to make a final decision together.
  • Lists. It’s the kitchen stuff I’ve been most excited about updating and expanding because currently most of my stuff is hand-me-downs. Over the last couple months I’ve kept a list of things I’d want as I came across them. When I had to bake cookies, it reminded me that I really need cooling racks. It also reminded me to get a bigger mixing bowl. When I made soup, it reminded me that I’d like a bigger stock pot. I also printed off several “what to register for” lists from the Interwebz and used those just to make sure I didn’t forget anything.
  • Compromise. DD doesn’t cook at all, so he let me rule the kitchen department. He held the gun, I told him what to scan. When it came to picking colors for bedding and bath, we compromised and each picked a color. I decided to be OK with neutral bedding instead of trying to talk him into a pattern that I’d like, but he wouldn’t. And as for the china, well, I really have no idea how we came to that decision so easily. It was my greatest fear as far as finding something we both liked and the choice came scarily easy. Maybe our tastes aren’t so different after all.
  • Helpful Staff. Our salesperson walked us through the china and fine gift section right away, which made it super easy to get that knocked off the list. Once we selected a pattern, she added everything in that category to save us time. We can of course go in and delete things we don’t want. After that, she gave us a quick “tour” of the store, pointing out the brands/products that were least likely to be discontinued or were the best in their class. That was helpful for the few things I hadn’t researched, like pots and pans. She was also good about leaving us alone but still being available if we had questions.

There were a few things that didn’t go perfectly as planned:

  • Sticker shock. Even though I’m not buying the stuff for myself, I was still well aware of how much some of our items cost. There were certain things I really wanted to include, regardless of price. But once those were added, I was afraid the other items we’d picked were too high. This lead to a slightly heated discussion in the knife aisle where I refused to select the $200 set and opted for an $80 set. First world problems, clearly.
  • Storage concerns. DD and I don’t know exactly where we’re going to live yet. The goal is a 2-bedroom apartment in Detroit, but we won’t start looking for a few more months. As the china settings and coffee makers and kitchen aids piled up, I grew increasingly concerned about where the hell we’d store everything. But, the beauty of registering early is that we can always remove things if we need to, and do it well before any pre-wedding parties, so I’m not too worried.
  • Really use v. want to use. As DD and I wandered the aisles, I had grand visions of dinner parties that would require fine china and fancy serving trays. DD had grand visions of morning coffee and evening espresso. But truthfully, will the visions come true or will the serving trays and dishes and espresso maker collect dust in the corner? Only time will tell I guess!


Filed under DD (aka My Man), decisions, list mania, Wedding

ABCs of Blogging

I know, MeMe’s are so last season. But, when you’re lacking blog content, they work. Also, I figure what with my anonymity and irregular posting, you guys probably don’t know much about me. Let’s see if we can change that! Thanks to Heidi for the lead on this particular MeMe.

A. Age: 29. 30 in June. Whoa.

B. Bed size: Double for now. When DD and I begin co-habiting someday soon, it will be a queen because a full just ain’t big enough!

C. Chore you hate: Cleaning the bathroom. Specifically, cleaning the shower.

D. Dogs: None owned by me. I grew up with a few different dogs and my parents have a dog now. But I only have visiting rights, so I suppose that doesn’t count. But, I’m definitely pro-dog and anti-cat.

E. Essential start to your day: On weekdays, a shower. On weekends, more sleep.

F. Favorite Color: I wear a lot of red. I love using it as an accent color.

G. Gold or silver: Are we talking jewelry here? Then silver or white gold.

H. Height: 5’5″. When I stand up straight.

I. Instruments you play: I played the clarinet when I was a kid. Not so much anymore.

J. Job title: Managing Editor.

K. Kids: None. But probably someday. You know, when I can come to terms with the fact that I will need to gain a bunch of weight and then actually take care of the children I birth for at least 18 years.

L. Live: Detroit. And not in the suburbs — in the city.

M. Mom’s name: Since I don’t give real names, let’s just call her Mom.

N. Nicknames: Again, a bit too much info. for the ol’ anonymity ploy. But Supergirl was a nickname once upon a time.

O. Overnight hospital stays: Yep. When I got a third kidney. And that was a 5 night stay to be exact. As a child, I was in the hospital a number of times over the years; it’s all kind of a blur now.

P. Pet peeve: oh, soo many. When DD leaves clothes in my living room because for some reason he can’t seem to change in a more normal place like the bedroom. When people ride my ass on the expressway.

Q. Quote from a movie: Too many. This was supposed to be a quick ditty, not a trip down the Internet Rabbit Hole.

R. Right or left handed: Right.

S. Siblings: Nada.

T. Time you wake up: Either 6 or 7, depending on my weekday morning plans. On weekends, it’s more like 9, 10, or — somedays — 11.

U. Underwear: Vickie’s Secret, the $5/25 bin. And not the sexy ones. In fact, I was just in there buying underwear and I swear the teenage girls in line behind me had sexier underwear in their baskets than I did. I’m old.

V. Vegetables you dislike: Never been a fan of the brussel sprout. But really, there aren’t too many veggies I hate. Fruit, on the other hand…

W. What makes you run late: my inability to get out of a warm bed.

X. X-Rays you’ve had: hmm, I’m sure I’ve had at least one chest x-ray. Also a foot/toe x-ray.

Y. Yummy food you make: pasta! pasta! pasta! I make a fab white lasagna

Z. Zoo- favorite animal: polar bears. The Detroit Zoo has a great exhibit.


Filed under list mania, loft style living, me! me!, transplant

New Year. New You.

Obviously, the resolution posts are all over the blogosphere this week. I thought long and hard about posting something different, but you know what? I’m not known for my creativity. So I’ll just jump on the bandwagon.

Actually, I have a slightly different approach to resolutions this year, that I’m sure I’ll only have in common with 50% of bloggers, so I guess that’s a bit original, eh?

The approach is this: keep working on last year’s resolutions. What’s the point of making new ones if I’m still struggling with the ones I made? Why should we just forget the past and start anew when in reality, the path to a “new you” shouldn’t be confined to 365 days.

Though I struggled with my 2010 resolutions, I truly did (and do) believe in them. So much so that I actually wrote them down and put them on my fridge way back in January. That paper is still there and serves as a daily reminder — and a kick in the pants — when I’m slacking.

So, let’s look at this blog post as a status update. A review of the resolutions set last year and a look ahead to 2011.

Early to bed, early to rise. I’m awful at the early to bed thing. I must put down the remote and get better at this. I simply must. There’s absolutely no reason for me to stay up to solely to watch old Seinfeld episodes. As for the morning thing, I did quite well with this the first part of 2010. Then the wheels came off the cliched wagon.

As far as looking ahead, some life changes may actually force this resolution this year. If that doesn’t happen, I’ll need to find a different source of motivation, which could be a challenge. Stay tuned.

Work out more/Do more yoga. I aimed for 3x/week at the gym and 2x/week at the yoga studio and sort of succeeded. The wagon ended up in the ditch whenever work got busy. Hence why being a morning person and getting back to morning workouts would be ideal. As for yoga, I was relatively successful. The last few months, I’ve been back to twice a week, up from weekly or every-other-week early on in the year.

Looking ahead, I realize I need to start making yoga a routine and sticking to it. I need to stop allowing other things to interfere. I may also need a work out buddy!

Blog more. After three years of being around here, I’ve reconciled myself to the fact that it ain’t gonna happen. You’re just going to have to get used to me only sporadically clogging up your reader!

Eat better: low carb/sugar, more fruits & veggies. Again, some success. I’m still heavy on the pasta, but maybe that’s not such a bad thing, especially if I get better at portion control and mixing veggies IN the pasta. As for the fruits/veggies; I’ll eat them as long as they’re in my fridge. And since I grocery shop every 2-3 weeks, I only end up having fresh produce at home a few days a month.

Looking ahead, I realize I need to get back to more of a weekly grocery habit to keep fresh food in the house. Barring that, not much will change.

Make more out of my weekends, including church. I was rocking this at first, but now it’s sporadically successful. The trouble really is DD and our penchant for sleeping in way past what is acceptable for 30 year olds. When he’s not around, I’m far more likely to get up and out the door for an 8:30 yoga class or an 11:30 mass. When he is around, I’m far more likely to cuddle because he’s just so damn cuddle-able.

Looking ahead, I really think that in order for this to be fully successful, we’re going to have to make it a joint goal. While I know he’d like to change his ways, we’re both facing the same challenges with loving the bed more than the world outside the bed, so I don’t know if it’ll happen.

So there you have it. Time to embark on Year Two of my ongoing resolution to be better and rock the world.

One last observation. I’ve always felt that I’m a creature of habit and require routine to survive. Looking back on 2010 and the years prior, I’m realizing that I’m actually quite opposite. I tend to have a general idea of what I want to do in a day or week, but will quickly adjust it based on others — like DD, friends, family, etc.

Most of my resolutions would be easily achieved if I simply set a routine — and stuck to it. If I told myself that I could not work late on Tuesdays and Thursdays so that I could go to yoga. If I told DD that I simply couldn’t cuddle with him on Sunday mornings because I needed to go to church instead. If I told friends I couldn’t meet up for a spontaneous dinner because I had to go to the gym first. Truly, TRULY, a routine would solve all my problems.

But where’s the fun in a routine?



Filed under DD (aka My Man), list mania, me! me!, rambling nature, S is for sports, Y is for Yoga

Dear Santa

As I’ve gotten older, I’m not nearly into the gift part of Christmas that I was as a child. In fact, every November, the requests for my Christmas list start coming in and I have no idea what to ask for.

This year, I sat down and came up with a few odds and ends.

It wasn’t my favorite, but I still feel the need to have a full collection of SATC.


I’m not technically a vegetarian, but I don’t really enjoy cooking meat. This leaves me with lots of pasta in my diet, which, while yummy, isn’t nutritious. I’d like to learn some great meatless recipes that don’t involve all the carbs that pasta has.


My yoga pants are all pretty old. I could use some newer ones, and maybe a cropped pair or two. I’m a bit picky when it comes to this stuff, so in this case, a gift card would work too!


If my yoga pants are out of date, my sports bras are really out of date. These are a necessity for yoga. They cover more skin than a regular sports bra, but they don’t bulge out and block my breathing when I’m in an inversion.


OK. I know. I’m about 5 years behind the Ugg trend. The thing is, I live in Michigan. Where we have things like snow. And mud. And slush. So I need boots that can handle the snow, mud and slush without crumbling at the mere thought. For the longest time I’ve felt that while Uggs were fashionable, they weren’t practical. And I still think that. But, I also think that I deserve to be fashionable. My question to the Ugg owners out there: do they stand up to weather? Can you weatherproof them? And does that even work?!

I like to cook, but hate dealing with it after a long day at work. Hence, the slow cooker. And maybe a recipe book to get me started?


An infinity scarf. In any color in the rainbow.


And finally…

The thing on everyone’s list. The iPad. Truthfully, this isn’t actually on my list. I refuse to allow anyone to spend $500 on any one Christmas gift for me. But, I’ve got my sights on it and it’s possible I’ll take the plunge and get one soon. It’s the only thing that will make me consider reading an eBook.


All in all, not a bad list. Lots of things I need, a few things I want. We’ll see what Santa brings!


Filed under glass half full, list mania, Y is for Yoga


It’s obvious I haven’t been around. It also shouldn’t be a secret that about the time DD stops traveling, I stop blogging. I long for the weeks when he actually stays in town, and when it happens, I tend to focus on him and not this.

Hope you’ll forgive me!

In an effort to catch up, here’s what’s new with me:

  • I’ve been rocking out the early a.m. work outs. Going at least twice a week, even with DD home, which I consider a feat. It’s so hard to get out of a warm cozy bed, but it’s slightly easier when you’re sleeping alone. With him in the mix, it’s just that much tougher. But I’m persevering and still feeling good on those early days.
  • I signed up for an art class on a whim. Last week I was thinking about life and my tendency to need routine. Every once in awhile, I decide that I need to break routine. This time, that’s manifesting itself in a Drawing for Beginners class. I’m a little excited and a little nervous — the class was more than I’d like to spend for some little ole’ continuing ed hobby, and I’m afraid I’ll start it and hate it. I’ve never been much for drawing, but for some reason, I’m interested now. We’ll see!
  • I got a bike! I’m rather excited to tool around Detroit in it. I figure I can take it to Eastern Market and also use it for some lovely scenic rides so that will add to my work out routine.
  • DD and I have sort of started a routine of walking in the evenings when we can. We’ve got a nice little 3-4 mile loop along the Detroit River and it’s just enough that we feel healthy, but not so much we feel dead. It’s also some nice QT with the added benefit of fresh air.
  • I’ve kind of become obsessed with Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution on ABC. I’m not quite sure why — I think it has a lot to do with his accent — but it’s also an interesting premise. It’s not high drama reality TV, but perhaps reality TV that can actually accomplish some good.

All in all, life is pretty damn good these days. Spring has finally sprung and while I’m sure we’ll get hit with another cold snap before it sets in for good, I’m excited by all the potential activities the season holds. And I’m really excited by all the fitness activities. While I’m not trying to drop pounds, I am trying to get daily exercise, which is much more than I usually strive for.

What’s new with you?


Filed under DD (aka My Man), Detroit, glass half full, list mania, loft style living, Uncategorized


I was working on a post on social media and connectedness, but it’s just not coming together and I don’t have the brain power to mess with it. Luckily, the brain is still processing bullets, so let’s look at all the things kicking around in my head today!

  • Yesterday, I got up at 6 a.m. and worked out before heading into work early. As a hardcore non-morning person, this was a feat. And a feat I sort of enjoyed. We’ll see if I can keep it going.
  • Last night I talked to an old friend for over 2 hours. We go way back to high school, but distance has separated us and we only see each other once every year or so. But, the beauty of our friendship is that even after months of not talking, we can pick up right where we left off. And I found out I get to see her in a couple months!!!
  • I’ve joined a nonprofit board. It’s a little organization, and I’m still a bit unsure of how I feel about the whole thing, but I do think it’s a step in the right direction for me so I’m looking forward to seeing how it plays out.
  • Next week, I’ll be out of town for work (and so probably not blogging). I rarely travel for work, thus I’m REALLY excited.
  • This weekend is another Detroit blogger outing and I’m looking forward to seeing everyone again. And picking up my really awesome handmade ring from Sillygrrl.

What’s kicking around your head?


Filed under list mania

Cabo, Cabo, Cabo

In just five short days, I’ll be leaving on a jet plane for Cabo. Yes, that Cabo. The one on the very tippy tip of Mexico’s Baja Peninsula. The one that boasts highs in the upper 70s while Detroit struggles to make it to a measly 30 this time of year. The one that is featured in like every season of either Laguna Beach or The Hills.

Ah, Cabo.

This will be my first trip to a tropical locale. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for YEARS, but just never got around to. When DD and I started dating, I thought I’d finally found my travel companion, but it’s taken me two years to convince him. The first year, he couldn’t get away from work. The second year, we had to cancel the idea when the economy tanked. Better to save than sun.

Now, finally, there will be sun. And I suppose everything works out for the best. We’d originally planned on the Dominican Republic, but after Haiti, I’m a bit glad we’re not headed there. We’d also planned on an all-inclusive. But then we found a four diamond, luxury, non all-inclusive resort with a deal that seriously couldn’t be beat.

The trip is the only reason I still have a smile on my face this time of year. January and February are rough for me. My (undiagnosed) Seasonal Affective Disorder hits big time and it feels like spring will never come. Breaking up the winter with a little trip to warmer climates is the perfect remedy.

As I think about all the things I need to do before I leave, I get even more excited, but I also get just a wee bit worried.

Things that excite me:

  • My newly purchased sun hat. Because I don’t plan to get skin cancer while I’m laying poolside.
  • The feel of hot sun instead of winter sun, which looks pretty but does nothin’ to warm you up.
  • The books. I had a Borders spree and am stocked up on some great reads to keep me occupied.
  • The sand and its natural exfoliant properties.
  • Couple’s beach side massage?! Maybe…
  • Mexican food (see below for the counteracting worry)
  • Relaxation time with DD. Away from other commitments and other people. Our relationship is best/most intimate/happiest when we’re given some down time together. Like many couples, our lives are jam packed at home and our couplehood certainly takes a hit.
  • Resort wear. My bathing suits and cover ups and sun dresses have been aching to be worn!

Things that worry me:

  • Montezuma’s revenge. I’m stocked up on antibiotics to treat any cases of the queasies that I (or DD) get. I’m especially nervous about water because that’s all I drink and will be in all of my frozen umbrella drinks. While I know to stick with bottled water, I’m still totally afraid I’ll pull a Charlotte and accidentally open my mouth in the shower and be screwed.
  • The transfers. I get irrationally nervous about transportation to/from the airport in any strange city — especially those not in the 50 states. Airport transportation is not included in our reservation.  We’re supposedly all set, but until I’m ensconced at the hotel, I’ll worry.
  • DD’s time. I will successfully unplug from work. He, however, claims that this week is a critical week in a project he’s working on. A project that he didn’t know about when we booked the trip and something that just can’t be helped. Granted, I can sit on the beach without him, but as I said above, the relaxation time together is equally important as my own relaxation time.
  • The money. I’d planned to cash in my American dollars, but then heard from a friend that American dollars will get you everywhere. We’ll decide when we get there, I suppose. Also? Exchange rates confuse me. Hence why I spent nearly $500 on a Prada purse in Italy when I thought it’d be closer to $300 or $400.

While I’m away, this blog will be getting quite a lot of action. I’ve got some awesome guest bloggers lined up who are also becoming real life friends. They’re going to be sharing some of their favorite Michigan/Detroit things. You didn’t think I could stop the Detroit love just because I’ll be gone, did you?

In the meantime, there will be a Friday Foto before I leave. After that, I’ll leave this place in the capable hands of my fellow Michigan bloggers. Be nice and enjoy!


Filed under DD (aka My Man), glass half full, list mania, travel